Thoughts on Dating a Trauma Survivor

17. August 2016 Uncategorized 2
Thoughts on Dating a Trauma Survivor
I had the idea over a week ago, to write a post about dating a trauma survivor. My initial thought was something along the lines of “How to date a trauma survivor? It’s actually pretty easy: just don’t be a jackass. Next.” But occasionally a bit more detail is warranted. 😉 So I reluctantly told ...

How to Throw TBMC Imagery In People’s Faces, Hollywood Style

03. August 2016 Uncategorized 8
How to Throw TBMC Imagery In People’s Faces, Hollywood Style
I don’t think I’ve ever done this before, but today I’m going to do an in-depth music video analysis to highlight the in-your-face TBMC programming that runs throughout just about every f-ing product created by Hollywood nowadays. I don’t usually bother with stuff like this, mostly because my buddy over at Power of Deception does ...

Why I Hate the Video “It’s Not About the Nail”

20. July 2016 Uncategorized 4
If you haven’t seen this video, it’s been floating around for awhile…at least several years. And while I understand the sentiments, and I’m not trying to be a killjoy, all the intended humor aside…basically:  I hate it. And here’s why. The video implies that the problem is simple and not at all complex; that it ...

When Culture Reinforces Attachment Injuries

10. July 2016 Uncategorized 15
When Culture Reinforces Attachment Injuries
I’ve been noticing something lately about American culture. America has come a long way in a hundred years, in a lot of ways. Some good, some awful. But one thing that’s really glaringly obvious even in the last ten or twenty is how increasingly disconnected we are from each other. With the rise of social ...

Changing Gears, Removing Anonymity

Changing Gears, Removing Anonymity
Hey everyone, it’s time for an update on the direction I’m going with my life, this blog, etc. As most of the long-time readers know, I’ve been blogging semi-anonymously for about two years now. I originally decided not to reveal things like my location, age, etc because I was concerned about some factors in my ...

Is TSwift a multiple?

Is TSwift a multiple?
No, I’m really asking.   (Plus, truth be told, I wanted to get something else posted to bump down the previous post.)   I’m not real celebrity-savvy. I know who the major ones are, but I don’t care about most of them. But in recent years I’ve done a moderate amount of digging around when ...

Pregnancy and Loss in RA

Pregnancy and Loss in RA
CONTENT WARNING:  ****This post is heavier than most writings I do. Please read with care, or come back to it another time, or never (if it’s not something you wish to know or think about).  Mentions: RA, pregnancy, infant loss, r*pe (indirectly), ab*rtion, ETC – may be other topics mentioned as well****       ...

The Damage Done by Media Portrayals of Trauma

The Damage Done by Media Portrayals of Trauma
Everyone knows the media has a HUGE influence on cultural beliefs, attitudes, and mindsets. I’m honestly not sure how it is in other countries, but here in America, whoever controls the media pretty much controls the minds of most Americans. One thing I noticed even as a kid, when watching shows like Full House, was the ...

Therapy Is Not For Everyone

15. April 2016 Uncategorized 8
Therapy Is Not For Everyone
    Disclaimer: this post is not intended to be construed as medical or psychiatric advice.   I know it may sound counter-cultural to say this, but I don’t believe therapy is always the right answer for those with DID. Given what I have learned over the last decade about trauma, dissociation, PTSD, and ritual ...

Sometimes Hope is Harmful

07. April 2016 Uncategorized 6
Sometimes Hope is Harmful
Sometimes hope is harmful. I know this may sound like a strange thing to say, but it’s true. It’s especially true for people who grew up in toxic families, where we are conditioned from a young age to be blinded to the fact that the other family members are dysfunctional. We think the problem is ...

Grounding with Essential Oils

04. April 2016 Uncategorized 6
Grounding with Essential Oils
I wanted to share a quick tip that I’ve found really, really helpful for me. I am on the fence about the actual effectiveness of essential oils. I know people who swear by them, and I know people who haven’t noticed much of a difference one way or another. I would be one of the ...

The Importance of Stand-Ins

29. March 2016 Uncategorized 3
The Importance of Stand-Ins
Recently I’ve been thinking about the importance of stand-ins, for those of us who didn’t get what we needed from our parents (which…let’s be real…is probably all of us, amirite?!). From an attachment standpoint, this can be crucial. If we had a primary caregiver that – for their own reasons – could not meet our ...

Manifesto

Manifesto
Sometimes writers need to write just for the hell of it. Because it’s what we do. It’s what we love. In effort to keep getting better at my craft, I joined the 7-Day Blog Like a Pro Challenge. And was inspired to get back to the basics, at least for today. So here’s what I’m ...

What is a Prayer Facilitator?

What is a Prayer Facilitator?
**TW**  Please be advised that this is an entirely Chr*stian post.                               If you’re pseudo-familiar with my healing journey, you know I don’t work primarily with a DID therapist. I work with people whose formal title would (I guess) be “prayer ...

Promises

04. February 2016 Uncategorized 3
Promises
**TW for mention of G*d – you can skip down past that part if you like, because there are still things in this that you might like to incorporate in your own way**                   On my way to work this morning, I was thinking about a situation ...

Estrogen Dominance, Cortisol, and Trauma

28. January 2016 Uncategorized 3
Estrogen Dominance, Cortisol, and Trauma
Last weekend I discovered something that I feel is VERY important for trauma survivors. Unfortunately, I only know the women’s side of things, since I’m a woman.  I’m not familiar with the implications of all this for men, so you’ll have to do your own research on that.  Also, in that light, some of this ...

A Few More Crisis Support Tips

19. January 2016 Uncategorized 0
A Few More Crisis Support Tips
I’m currently living in the land of “thoughts that aren’t long enough for a blog post but it might still help someone”. Which is fab (sarcasm), but whatever.  So as I mentioned recently, I was the victim of a robbery not very long ago, and I’m still struggling to get back on my feet from ...

Why is “Treatment Resistant” a Thing?

17. January 2016 Uncategorized 12
Why is “Treatment Resistant” a Thing?
I wanted to write about the term “treatment resistant” since I’ve heard it so much and have had it applied to me for various things and at various times. But when I went to read about it, I was surprised by what I found. Firstly, most of the time when it was used about me, ...