Black and White and Shades of Gray

Black and White and Shades of Gray
I’m in a really, really good space right now. Last year, and even portions of earlier this year, was just such a doozie for me. I honestly wasn’t sure how, or if, I would recover. But sometimes those are the exact circumstances wherein you find out what you’re made of. I felt broken for much ...

What I’m Doing Lately

19. September 2017 guest posts, news, update 2
What I’m Doing Lately
Hey guys, I am honestly having trouble coming up with stuff to write about here on the blog, but that’s because I’ve been busy writing other things, other places. So I thought I’d just put up a quick catch-you-up post in case you want to know. This probably should be a newsletter, but I have ...

What Will It Take to Reclaim Human Rights?

What Will It Take to Reclaim Human Rights?
I was reading this depressing but unsurprising article today in which Vigilante Citizen analyzed Taylor Swift’s newest music video for her newest song “Look What You Made Me Do.” VC was breaking it down beyond the surface-y layers of her petty attempts to slap back at everyone who’s ever offended or insulted her in the ...

DID and Disordered Eating

DID and Disordered Eating
Many people with DID or some sort of dissociative disorder also have other concurrent struggles. Disordered eating is a common one. I say ‘disordered eating’ rather than ‘eating disorders’ because the behavior – like dissociative issues – may not be full-blown enough to qualify for a diagnosis…but it may be incredibly harmful and/or distressing nonetheless. ...

Guest Post – DID Myths and Misconceptions

Guest Post – DID Myths and Misconceptions
Hello folks! This week I am honored and privileged to have permission to share a post from┬áBeauty After Bruises‘ blog. I have had the pleasure of corresponding with the good people from BAB, and am very happy to be getting acquainted with them. Here’s a bit more about who they are and what they do. ...

Why Other People Can’t Fix Attachment Wounds

Why Other People Can’t Fix Attachment Wounds
Top of the morning to you. (Afternoon, evening…whatever it is…wherever you are.) I’ve been thinking a lot about the issue of why others can’t fix those of us who have deep unmet attachment needs left over from childhood. Honestly, for a blog about dissociation, I get asked about attachment stuff way more often (which is ...

How to (Re-) Parent Yourself

How to (Re-) Parent Yourself
So, the question is, if you didn’t have good parents, how do you re-parent yourself?   Most people innately know how to care for young ones. If you can see past your own filters, it’s basic human instinct. What gets in the way is the reverberating experiences of how WE were treated. But when those ...

“Split” Movie Review

“Split” Movie Review
SPOILERS ARE IN THIS BLOG POST. DO NOT READ IF YOU DON’T WANT TO KNOW IMPORTANT PLOT POINTS/ETC !! And also ***TW*** for talk about ab*se, violence, inc*st, de*th,, k*dnapping, general awfulness and grossness and yuck. But you know me, I try not to linger on these things.           * * ...

The Answer to the Question Most People Ask

06. July 2017 Uncategorized 9
The Answer to the Question Most People Ask
I get a lot of emails, which I enjoy reading because I enjoy connecting with you guys. I’m never sure how to feel, though, when people tell me they relate to so much of what I’ve written. I’m horribly sorry that there are people out there who have experienced the pain I’ve talked about on ...

Advocacy and Being Human

07. April 2017 Uncategorized 6
Advocacy and Being Human
PSA: I hope and plan to come back to writing regularly in a few short weeks. Not sure if I will have anything worthwhile to say…but I’ll be available…so maybe we can be surprised at what comes out, together. ­čśŤ I recently came across this article, referring to the recent news that the founder of ...

Hiatus

07. November 2016 Uncategorized 6
Hiatus
Well, folks, life is full of surprises. That is the one thing that never seems to change. I’m writing this post to let you know that there are some things going on in my personal life that I need to focus on. Because of this, I will be backing away from online activity. Timeline: indefinite. ...

Fall has Fell

08. October 2016 Uncategorized 2
Fall has Fell
Just a quick “FYI” to everyone that in America, fall is here. Fall and October can be a very very hard time for RA survivors and I am unfortunately not much of an exception to this. I AM doing quite a bit better than usual so far┬áthis year, which is a testimony to the healing ...

How to Recover From Trauma

20. September 2016 Uncategorized 2
How to Recover From Trauma
Hey guys, This is a rather simplistic explanation, but what I hope it can do is break down the major components of recovery. Also, keep in mind: healing is not a linear process. Every step in the process does not (probably cannot) happen in a sequential order that makes sense. You may spend awhile on ...

Origins: When Your Worst Fear Comes True

28. August 2016 Uncategorized 14
Origins: When Your Worst Fear Comes True
Folks, it’s been an unexpected shitstorm for me for the last few weeks, and I’ve been drowning. It used to be a very rare day indeed when I can’t write, can’t talk, can’t communicate in some way with anyone about anything…but that’s where I’ve been. Nevertheless, I have found a little bit of my voice ...

Thoughts on Dating a Trauma Survivor

17. August 2016 Uncategorized 2
Thoughts on Dating a Trauma Survivor
I had the idea over a week ago, to write a post about dating a trauma survivor. My initial thought was something along the lines of “How to date a trauma survivor? It’s actually pretty easy: just don’t be a jackass. Next.” But occasionally a bit more detail is warranted. ­čśë So I reluctantly told ...

How to Throw TBMC Imagery In People’s Faces, Hollywood Style

03. August 2016 Uncategorized 8
How to Throw TBMC Imagery In People’s Faces, Hollywood Style
I don’t think I’ve ever done this before, but today I’m going to do an in-depth music video analysis to highlight the in-your-face TBMC programming that runs throughout just about every f-ing product created by Hollywood nowadays. I don’t usually bother with stuff like this, mostly because my buddy over at Power of Deception does ...

Why I Hate the Video “It’s Not About the Nail”

20. July 2016 Uncategorized 4
If you haven’t seen this video, it’s been floating around for awhile…at least several years. And while I understand the sentiments, and I’m not trying to be a killjoy, all the intended humor aside…basically: ┬áI hate it. And here’s why. The video implies that the problem is simple and not at all complex; that it ...

When Culture Reinforces Attachment Injuries

10. July 2016 Uncategorized 18
When Culture Reinforces Attachment Injuries
I’ve been noticing something lately about American culture. America has come a long way in a hundred years, in a lot of ways. Some good, some awful. But one thing that’s really glaringly obvious even in the last ten or twenty is how increasingly disconnected we are from each other. With the rise of social ...