**TW** for some talk about G*d (nothing extensive)
This is the time of year that’s usually VERY VERY HARD for SRA/RA survivors. Despite that, because of some amazing recent breakthroughs and etc, I’m doing WELL! Like really well!
Nevertheless, it’s also the busy season at my day job, and I just haven’t had a lot of time to write. I’m always working, whether it’s working at work, or doing side projects at home, or projects related to writing or the blog or advocacy or survivor stuff. It just doesn’t always appear to the public that I’m doing anything because most stuff takes a lot of grunt work before there’s any results.
ANYWAY, since I don’t have a ton of time to post something, I wanted to share some stuff I’ve been reading lately, which you may or may not have seen floating around on social media already.
This. Just so much this.
About this (link above):
I don’t intentionally go around busting people’s bubbles, but I have started to hate the cutesy little memes floating around that say “The creative adult is the child who survived” and other shit like that that implies that our struggles made the current version of us somehow superior to our original version.
Maybe I’m just getting cranky in my old age. But I believe THERE WAS NOTHING INFERIOR IN OUR ORIGINAL DESIGN. NOTHING. We didn’t “need” to go through hell, and hell didn’t make us better people. That’s horribly insulting if you trace it back to what it really implies, which is that we sucked so badly that only hell could improve us. Um, no. We were perfect, God was (and still is) pleased with us, and then life happened to us and it broke God’s heart along with ours.
God can absolutely repair, transform, redeem. But grief, for how brightly I could have shone **without** having gone thru hell, is entirely appropriate.
And yes, I understand people need to try to make sense of their pain at some point. But people jumping to logic and skipping over the grief (and spreading crap with these loaded messages) might make their brain feel more at ease but it also puts a lot of hearts in the gutter…including their own. And then we wonder why we’re full of head knowledge with hearts that feel lost.
I’ve also been reading this, because I can relate to it.
And this, when I need a laugh, because I’m from America and I admittedly don’t “get” the Australian lingo. I hope one day I’ll be able to go visit some of my friends over there and then maybe I’ll have time to learn how to be as cool as they are (although I predict on the front end that that is a hopeless goal). 😉
And this discussion of church and mental health issues (and I pretty much love and cry to everything Glennon writes). **TW: Discussion of God and church stuff.
I’ve also got several books under way, including Mothers Who Can’t Love, a book about recovering from cult involvement, and still haven’t completely finished Healing from Developmental Trauma. Like I said…I keep busy.
Thinking about all of you during this season (and always). Will write a real post soon. Cheers. ~J8