Hiatus

07. November 2016 Uncategorized 6
Hiatus
Well, folks, life is full of surprises. That is the one thing that never seems to change. I’m writing this post to let you know that there are some things going on in my personal life that I need to focus on. Because of this, I will be backing away from online activity. Timeline: indefinite. ...

Fall has Fell

08. October 2016 Uncategorized 2
Fall has Fell
Just a quick “FYI” to everyone that in America, fall is here. Fall and October can be a very very hard time for RA survivors and I am unfortunately not much of an exception to this. I AM doing quite a bit better than usual so far this year, which is a testimony to the healing ...

How to Recover From Trauma

20. September 2016 Uncategorized 0
How to Recover From Trauma
Hey guys, This is a rather simplistic explanation, but what I hope it can do is break down the major components of recovery. Also, keep in mind: healing is not a linear process. Every step in the process does not (probably cannot) happen in a sequential order that makes sense. You may spend awhile on ...

Origins: When Your Worst Fear Comes True

28. August 2016 Uncategorized 14
Origins: When Your Worst Fear Comes True
Folks, it’s been an unexpected shitstorm for me for the last few weeks, and I’ve been drowning. It used to be a very rare day indeed when I can’t write, can’t talk, can’t communicate in some way with anyone about anything…but that’s where I’ve been. Nevertheless, I have found a little bit of my voice ...

Thoughts on Dating a Trauma Survivor

17. August 2016 Uncategorized 2
Thoughts on Dating a Trauma Survivor
I had the idea over a week ago, to write a post about dating a trauma survivor. My initial thought was something along the lines of “How to date a trauma survivor? It’s actually pretty easy: just don’t be a jackass. Next.” But occasionally a bit more detail is warranted. 😉 So I reluctantly told ...

How to Throw TBMC Imagery In People’s Faces, Hollywood Style

03. August 2016 Uncategorized 8
How to Throw TBMC Imagery In People’s Faces, Hollywood Style
I don’t think I’ve ever done this before, but today I’m going to do an in-depth music video analysis to highlight the in-your-face TBMC programming that runs throughout just about every f-ing product created by Hollywood nowadays. I don’t usually bother with stuff like this, mostly because my buddy over at Power of Deception does ...

Why I Hate the Video “It’s Not About the Nail”

20. July 2016 Uncategorized 4
If you haven’t seen this video, it’s been floating around for awhile…at least several years. And while I understand the sentiments, and I’m not trying to be a killjoy, all the intended humor aside…basically:  I hate it. And here’s why. The video implies that the problem is simple and not at all complex; that it ...

When Culture Reinforces Attachment Injuries

10. July 2016 Uncategorized 18
When Culture Reinforces Attachment Injuries
I’ve been noticing something lately about American culture. America has come a long way in a hundred years, in a lot of ways. Some good, some awful. But one thing that’s really glaringly obvious even in the last ten or twenty is how increasingly disconnected we are from each other. With the rise of social ...

Is TSwift a multiple?

Is TSwift a multiple?
No, I’m really asking.   (Plus, truth be told, I wanted to get something else posted to bump down the previous post.)   I’m not real celebrity-savvy. I know who the major ones are, but I don’t care about most of them. But in recent years I’ve done a moderate amount of digging around when ...

Pregnancy and Loss in RA

Pregnancy and Loss in RA
CONTENT WARNING:  ****This post is heavier than most writings I do. Please read with care, or come back to it another time, or never (if it’s not something you wish to know or think about).  Mentions: RA, pregnancy, infant loss, r*pe (indirectly), ab*rtion, ETC – may be other topics mentioned as well****       ...

The Damage Done by Media Portrayals of Trauma

The Damage Done by Media Portrayals of Trauma
Everyone knows the media has a HUGE influence on cultural beliefs, attitudes, and mindsets. I’m honestly not sure how it is in other countries, but here in America, whoever controls the media pretty much controls the minds of most Americans. One thing I noticed even as a kid, when watching shows like Full House, was the ...

Therapy Is Not For Everyone

15. April 2016 Uncategorized 8
Therapy Is Not For Everyone
    Disclaimer: this post is not intended to be construed as medical or psychiatric advice.   I know it may sound counter-cultural to say this, but I don’t believe therapy is always the right answer for those with DID. Given what I have learned over the last decade about trauma, dissociation, PTSD, and ritual ...

Sometimes Hope is Harmful

07. April 2016 Uncategorized 6
Sometimes Hope is Harmful
Sometimes hope is harmful. I know this may sound like a strange thing to say, but it’s true. It’s especially true for people who grew up in toxic families, where we are conditioned from a young age to be blinded to the fact that the other family members are dysfunctional. We think the problem is ...

Grounding with Essential Oils

04. April 2016 Uncategorized 6
Grounding with Essential Oils
I wanted to share a quick tip that I’ve found really, really helpful for me. I am on the fence about the actual effectiveness of essential oils. I know people who swear by them, and I know people who haven’t noticed much of a difference one way or another. I would be one of the ...

The Importance of Stand-Ins

29. March 2016 Uncategorized 3
The Importance of Stand-Ins
Recently I’ve been thinking about the importance of stand-ins, for those of us who didn’t get what we needed from our parents (which…let’s be real…is probably all of us, amirite?!). From an attachment standpoint, this can be crucial. If we had a primary caregiver that – for their own reasons – could not meet our ...

Manifesto

Manifesto
Sometimes writers need to write just for the hell of it. Because it’s what we do. It’s what we love. In effort to keep getting better at my craft, I joined the 7-Day Blog Like a Pro Challenge. And was inspired to get back to the basics, at least for today. So here’s what I’m ...

What is a Prayer Facilitator?

What is a Prayer Facilitator?
**TW**  Please be advised that this is an entirely Chr*stian post.                               If you’re pseudo-familiar with my healing journey, you know I don’t work primarily with a DID therapist. I work with people whose formal title would (I guess) be “prayer ...