The Importance of Stand-Ins

29. March 2016 Uncategorized 3
The Importance of Stand-Ins
Recently I’ve been thinking about the importance of stand-ins, for those of us who didn’t get what we needed from our parents (which…let’s be real…is probably all of us, amirite?!). From an attachment standpoint, this can be crucial. If we had a primary caregiver that – for their own reasons – could not meet our ...

Manifesto

Manifesto
Sometimes writers need to write just for the hell of it. Because it’s what we do. It’s what we love. In effort to keep getting better at my craft, I joined the 7-Day Blog Like a Pro Challenge. And was inspired to get back to the basics, at least for today. So here’s what I’m ...

What is a Prayer Facilitator?

What is a Prayer Facilitator?
**TW**  Please be advised that this is an entirely Chr*stian post.                               If you’re pseudo-familiar with my healing journey, you know I don’t work primarily with a DID therapist. I work with people whose formal title would (I guess) be “prayer ...

Promises

04. February 2016 Uncategorized 3
Promises
**TW for mention of G*d – you can skip down past that part if you like, because there are still things in this that you might like to incorporate in your own way**                   On my way to work this morning, I was thinking about a situation ...

Estrogen Dominance, Cortisol, and Trauma

28. January 2016 Uncategorized 3
Estrogen Dominance, Cortisol, and Trauma
Last weekend I discovered something that I feel is VERY important for trauma survivors. Unfortunately, I only know the women’s side of things, since I’m a woman.  I’m not familiar with the implications of all this for men, so you’ll have to do your own research on that.  Also, in that light, some of this ...

A Few More Crisis Support Tips

19. January 2016 Uncategorized 0
A Few More Crisis Support Tips
I’m currently living in the land of “thoughts that aren’t long enough for a blog post but it might still help someone”. Which is fab (sarcasm), but whatever.  So as I mentioned recently, I was the victim of a robbery not very long ago, and I’m still struggling to get back on my feet from ...

Why is “Treatment Resistant” a Thing?

17. January 2016 Uncategorized 12
Why is “Treatment Resistant” a Thing?
I wanted to write about the term “treatment resistant” since I’ve heard it so much and have had it applied to me for various things and at various times. But when I went to read about it, I was surprised by what I found. Firstly, most of the time when it was used about me, ...

Breaking Contact vs. Breaking Connection

11. January 2016 Uncategorized 8
Breaking Contact vs. Breaking Connection
Hey guys. I’m “back” – sort of.  I’m trying to be.  First, some news.  I didn’t go out of my way to broadcast it to everyone in my network (that’s never wise about any kind of news, in my experience), but I’m making it known now that it’s been over for awhile and so that ...

The Complete Written Interview

18. November 2015 Uncategorized 3
The Complete Written Interview
Now that the radio documentary is out, I thought it might be informative to post the full and complete written interview with Sue Reece.  Since I’m a writer and they had time restraints, I wrote excessively (I’m sure that’s hard to imagine *wink wink*) and they used what they wanted for the documentary.  I have ...

I, the Many; We, the One (Radio Adelaide)

I, the Many; We, the One (Radio Adelaide)
Hey everybody, This summer I got to participate in a radio documentary about Dissociative Identity Disorder, produced by some friends in South Australia.  I corresponded via email interview and a lovely Canadian lady voiced “me” for the recordings.  This documentary is very well done and I’m really thankful to Sue Reece for letting me be ...

You Are Not One of Them

You Are Not One of Them
  ***TW**** briefly mentions s*icide, ab*se   I wanted to write something helpful this week, but I’m actually the one who needs help, and I didn’t see it coming. And isn’t that always the damn truth.  Just when things seem like they’re really getting better, the other shoe drops. And somewhere on the inside, someone ...

Currently Reading

Currently Reading
**TW** for some talk about G*d (nothing extensive)   Hey everybody, This is the time of year that’s usually VERY VERY HARD for SRA/RA survivors.  Despite that, because of some amazing recent breakthroughs and etc, I’m doing WELL!  Like really well! Nevertheless, it’s also the busy season at my day job, and I just haven’t ...

Separating Lies from Truth – Negative Beliefs that Keep Us Trapped

Separating Lies from Truth – Negative Beliefs that Keep Us Trapped
I’ve been trying to find time to put this in words for awhile, and time just keeps escaping me. Busy season is coming up for me at work, so hopefully I can get this put out there before everything crashes in on me. Okay, so one thing that a lot of people may not understand ...

“The Shining Man” Review, Part 2

I’m going to try to make this more brief than the previous one. I just want to reiterate what I said yesterday:  Jesus does not force people to do anything they don’t want to do. He doesn’t send his angels to force anyone, either. He doesn’t take alters’ clothes away, or lock them up on ...

Why I Hate “The Shining Man with the Hurt Hands”

Preface: if I lose friends over this post, so be it.  Too many people out there don’t have the guts to have an informed opinion of their own, and be vocal about it, but yet they’ll willingly attack anyone else who has one.  That kind of cowardice may be comfortable for a lot of internet ...

Family Loyalty – Or, Why Some People Never Tell

Due to some recent events, I’ve been thinking a lot about family dynamics lately.  There’s no way I could cover every possible aspect of an unhealthy family, but these are a couple specific issues I’ve been thinking about recently from my own experiences.  One of the hardest questions I’ve struggled with when it comes to family ...

The Science of Attachment

I’m starting to put together some useful information.  The other day I happened upon this article on the effects of attachment on right brain development. I have to say, I’m only about 1/3 of the way through it, but my mind kicked into over drive by about the tenth page.  I mean, after I deciphered the ...