Black and White and Shades of Gray

Black and White and Shades of Gray
I’m in a really, really good space right now. Last year, and even portions of earlier this year, was just such a doozie for me. I honestly wasn’t sure how, or if, I would recover. But sometimes those are the exact circumstances wherein you find out what you’re made of. I felt broken for much ...

DID and Disordered Eating

DID and Disordered Eating
Many people with DID or some sort of dissociative disorder also have other concurrent struggles. Disordered eating is a common one. I say ‘disordered eating’ rather than ‘eating disorders’ because the behavior – like dissociative issues – may not be full-blown enough to qualify for a diagnosis…but it may be incredibly harmful and/or distressing nonetheless. ...

Guest Post – DID Myths and Misconceptions

Guest Post – DID Myths and Misconceptions
Hello folks! This week I am honored and privileged to have permission to share a post from Beauty After Bruises‘ blog. I have had the pleasure of corresponding with the good people from BAB, and am very happy to be getting acquainted with them. Here’s a bit more about who they are and what they do. ...

Why Other People Can’t Fix Attachment Wounds

Why Other People Can’t Fix Attachment Wounds
Top of the morning to you. (Afternoon, evening…whatever it is…wherever you are.) I’ve been thinking a lot about the issue of why others can’t fix those of us who have deep unmet attachment needs left over from childhood. Honestly, for a blog about dissociation, I get asked about attachment stuff way more often (which is ...

“Split” Movie Review

“Split” Movie Review
SPOILERS ARE IN THIS BLOG POST. DO NOT READ IF YOU DON’T WANT TO KNOW IMPORTANT PLOT POINTS/ETC !! And also ***TW*** for talk about ab*se, violence, inc*st, de*th,, k*dnapping, general awfulness and grossness and yuck. But you know me, I try not to linger on these things.           * * ...

Is TSwift a multiple?

Is TSwift a multiple?
No, I’m really asking.   (Plus, truth be told, I wanted to get something else posted to bump down the previous post.)   I’m not real celebrity-savvy. I know who the major ones are, but I don’t care about most of them. But in recent years I’ve done a moderate amount of digging around when ...

Manifesto

Manifesto
Sometimes writers need to write just for the hell of it. Because it’s what we do. It’s what we love. In effort to keep getting better at my craft, I joined the 7-Day Blog Like a Pro Challenge. And was inspired to get back to the basics, at least for today. So here’s what I’m ...

I, the Many; We, the One (Radio Adelaide)

I, the Many; We, the One (Radio Adelaide)
Hey everybody, This summer I got to participate in a radio documentary about Dissociative Identity Disorder, produced by some friends in South Australia.  I corresponded via email interview and a lovely Canadian lady voiced “me” for the recordings.  This documentary is very well done and I’m really thankful to Sue Reece for letting me be ...

You Are Not One of Them

You Are Not One of Them
  ***TW**** briefly mentions s*icide, ab*se   I wanted to write something helpful this week, but I’m actually the one who needs help, and I didn’t see it coming. And isn’t that always the damn truth.  Just when things seem like they’re really getting better, the other shoe drops. And somewhere on the inside, someone ...

Separating Lies from Truth – Negative Beliefs that Keep Us Trapped

Separating Lies from Truth – Negative Beliefs that Keep Us Trapped
I’ve been trying to find time to put this in words for awhile, and time just keeps escaping me. Busy season is coming up for me at work, so hopefully I can get this put out there before everything crashes in on me. Okay, so one thing that a lot of people may not understand ...

“The Shining Man” Review, Part 2

I’m going to try to make this more brief than the previous one. I just want to reiterate what I said yesterday:  Jesus does not force people to do anything they don’t want to do. He doesn’t send his angels to force anyone, either. He doesn’t take alters’ clothes away, or lock them up on ...

Why I Hate “The Shining Man with the Hurt Hands”

Preface: if I lose friends over this post, so be it.  Too many people out there don’t have the guts to have an informed opinion of their own, and be vocal about it, but yet they’ll willingly attack anyone else who has one.  That kind of cowardice may be comfortable for a lot of internet ...

Baby Alters

I’ve been thinking about baby alters lately, and very young child parts, of which I have not just a few. They get neglected a lot. Partially because unless they’re doing/feeling/radiating something painful that I inadvertently tap into, I just don’t always notice them. So when I remember that they’re there, I’m at a loss as to ...

The SRA/TBMC Controversy, Revisited

*****TW*****  I have tried to make this as non-triggering as possible. But if you’re a survivor, read with care.                         As you probably already know, there are still various debates going on, and schools of thought about, Dissociative Identity Disorder and its relation to ...

Dear System Guardians…

You guys, I wrote Dear Little Ones because I really wanted to convey my heart for little ones in a way that could help them understand things that were happening, and hopefully bring some clarity and peace to some of the more wounded and confused insiders in people’s systems. But little ones aren’t the only ones on ...

On Revealing Multiplicity

******This post mildly mentions ch*rch and d*mon possession.******           One of the hardest things about being a multiple is the lack of understanding by the general public of what it is, what it’s like, and appropriate ways to respond to the knowledge of someone being a multiple.  Most – if not ...

How to be Friends with an S/RA Survivor: a Quick Start Guide

**TW** Mentions of ab*se, m*mories, fl*shbacks, etc… Hey everybody. I’m back with some continued thoughts on doing life and friendships/relationships with people who have experienced S/RA (Satanic/Ritual Abuse).  This is not meant to be all-inclusive, but just a starting point. I can’t possibly write every single thing that will be helpful for every single person ...

Physiological Challenges

So as I wrote about recently, I’ve been making some profound discoveries through Laurence Heller’s book Healing Developmental Trauma. This has brought up several of what would seem to be “side” issues, which nevertheless seem pretty big, so that’s where I’ve been camping out, trying to unpack everything I need to absorb in these places ...