Is TSwift a multiple?

Is TSwift a multiple?
No, I’m really asking.   (Plus, truth be told, I wanted to get something else posted to bump down the previous post.)   I’m not real celebrity-savvy. I know who the major ones are, but I don’t care about most of them. But in recent years I’ve done a moderate amount of digging around when ...

Pregnancy and Loss in RA

Pregnancy and Loss in RA
CONTENT WARNING:  ****This post is heavier than most writings I do. Please read with care, or come back to it another time, or never (if it’s not something you wish to know or think about).  Mentions: RA, pregnancy, infant loss, r*pe (indirectly), ab*rtion, ETC – may be other topics mentioned as well****       ...

Manifesto

Manifesto
Sometimes writers need to write just for the hell of it. Because it’s what we do. It’s what we love. In effort to keep getting better at my craft, I joined the 7-Day Blog Like a Pro Challenge. And was inspired to get back to the basics, at least for today. So here’s what I’m ...

Why I Hate “The Shining Man with the Hurt Hands”

Preface: if I lose friends over this post, so be it.  Too many people out there don’t have the guts to have an informed opinion of their own, and be vocal about it, but yet they’ll willingly attack anyone else who has one.  That kind of cowardice may be comfortable for a lot of internet ...

The SRA/TBMC Controversy, Revisited

*****TW*****  I have tried to make this as non-triggering as possible. But if you’re a survivor, read with care.                         As you probably already know, there are still various debates going on, and schools of thought about, Dissociative Identity Disorder and its relation to ...

The Price

Today, everything just feels like too much.  I was blindsided by this feeling.  Didn’t really see it coming.  Halloween is over.  Now that I’m out from under my family of origin, the holidays suck much less than they could. I’ve even had some fun times this year already. There is nothing unusually stressful about this ...

Baby Memories

I wrote this in shorthand (which I expanded for the post) last night while I was laying in bed trying not to lose my mind.  I think some of the turbulence this year is from having gone deeper into my system than ever, and being in contact with some of the youngest and perhaps most ...

Crazy Fall

(some rambling) Well, I knew it was going to happen sooner or later:  the random post that consists entirely of rabbit trails. You guys have bore (born? beared? …attention, grammar Nazis…plz respond) with me through my other posts that have been at least pseudo-coherent (I hope?), so now I present to you:  this one. I ...

Internal Landscapes

Recently the subject of internal landscapes came up, so I thought I would write a little about it for the benefit of those who do not have D.I.D…or even those who do, if they want to join the discussion.  😉 So, what a lot of people who do not have D.I.D. don’t always understand is ...

About Integration

I have written about integration a little bit on my website, but I thought I would re-visit it here, just for kicks. The American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy, in their article about D.I.D., says: “The main goal for treatment is the integration of the separate personality states into one cohesive, unified personality…”  In ...

Guest Post – Chloe

This probably needs a TRIGGER WARNING, even though we always try to keep things unspecific.  (S)RA/MC is mentioned in this post, as is Freemas*nry, pr*gramming, s*icide, and s*lf-m*tilation, etc.  If these words are problematic for you, be cautious or feel free to navigate away from this post.  If you are okay with reading/seeing those words, ...

Working With Multiple Systems

These are just some thoughts off the top of my head, as to how to work with a multiple and their system.  I’m writing this for therapists, counselors, and/or anyone else (even friends) who attempts to relate to or work with a multiple and their system.  As always, this is not meant to be exhaustive, and ...

Double Binds

**TW**  Some mild discussion of ritual abuse is included in this post.  I have made it generic.  But read with caution, if you are a survivor and/or are not in a good place emotionally.                               Double binds are something that everyone ...

Trauma-Based Mind Control **TW**

TRIGGER WARNING:  I have specifically made this blog a place where very few graphic details have or will ever be discussed, and this post is no exception. HOWEVER. Some people find that even certain words can be problematic.  This is a post where that may be the case.  I have not included ANY graphic details ...

Why I Write

I’m working on a post for later today, but I wanted to take a minute and ask a favor from all who have read my blog.  If you have found it useful, enjoyable, relevant to you or someone you know, or informative (or all 4! woohoo!), can you please take a minute and “Like” the ...

Types of Inside People

Someone recently asked me if I could write about a certain type of inside person, because they wanted information about it, so in keeping with this request, I am going to babble about this subject for a bit.  I have provided plenty of links within this post if you want to know more people’s opinions ...

Some Resources

Hey everybody, I am about to have oral surgery tomorrow, and most likely won’t feel like writing for a few days.  But I did want to pause and extend some resources for those who might be interested in some of the same types of stuff that I have found helpful. NOTE:  The majority of these ...

Living Life With an SRA Survivor

I realize it might be a little absurd for me, the survivor, to write about what it’s like being friends with a survivor.  I’ve never walked a mile in those shoes…at least, not yet.  But I HAVE learned some things, most of them learned the hard way.  I’ve walked through misunderstandings, rejections, unfair judgments, and ...

The Ritual Aspect of RA

I have intentionally tried to keep this blog, as well as my website, as generic and as trigger-less as possible.  However, it’s impossible for me to know or avoid every trigger that every reader might have.  Everyone is unique and their stories are specific to them. I want to write a post soon about being ...