Black and White and Shades of Gray

Black and White and Shades of Gray
I’m in a really, really good space right now. Last year, and even portions of earlier this year, was just such a doozie for me. I honestly wasn’t sure how, or if, I would recover. But sometimes those are the exact circumstances wherein you find out what you’re made of. I felt broken for much ...

DID and Disordered Eating

DID and Disordered Eating
Many people with DID or some sort of dissociative disorder also have other concurrent struggles. Disordered eating is a common one. I say ‘disordered eating’ rather than ‘eating disorders’ because the behavior – like dissociative issues – may not be full-blown enough to qualify for a diagnosis…but it may be incredibly harmful and/or distressing nonetheless. ...

Why Other People Can’t Fix Attachment Wounds

Why Other People Can’t Fix Attachment Wounds
Top of the morning to you. (Afternoon, evening…whatever it is…wherever you are.) I’ve been thinking a lot about the issue of why others can’t fix those of us who have deep unmet attachment needs left over from childhood. Honestly, for a blog about dissociation, I get asked about attachment stuff way more often (which is ...

The Damage Done by Media Portrayals of Trauma

The Damage Done by Media Portrayals of Trauma
Everyone knows the media has a HUGE influence on cultural beliefs, attitudes, and mindsets. I’m honestly not sure how it is in other countries, but here in America, whoever controls the media pretty much controls the minds of most Americans. One thing I noticed even as a kid, when watching shows like Full House, was the ...

Manifesto

Manifesto
Sometimes writers need to write just for the hell of it. Because it’s what we do. It’s what we love. In effort to keep getting better at my craft, I joined the 7-Day Blog Like a Pro Challenge. And was inspired to get back to the basics, at least for today. So here’s what I’m ...

I, the Many; We, the One (Radio Adelaide)

I, the Many; We, the One (Radio Adelaide)
Hey everybody, This summer I got to participate in a radio documentary about Dissociative Identity Disorder, produced by some friends in South Australia.  I corresponded via email interview and a lovely Canadian lady voiced “me” for the recordings.  This documentary is very well done and I’m really thankful to Sue Reece for letting me be ...

You Are Not One of Them

You Are Not One of Them
  ***TW**** briefly mentions s*icide, ab*se   I wanted to write something helpful this week, but I’m actually the one who needs help, and I didn’t see it coming. And isn’t that always the damn truth.  Just when things seem like they’re really getting better, the other shoe drops. And somewhere on the inside, someone ...

Separating Lies from Truth – Negative Beliefs that Keep Us Trapped

Separating Lies from Truth – Negative Beliefs that Keep Us Trapped
I’ve been trying to find time to put this in words for awhile, and time just keeps escaping me. Busy season is coming up for me at work, so hopefully I can get this put out there before everything crashes in on me. Okay, so one thing that a lot of people may not understand ...

Recovering

It’s been a distressing few weeks, but I’m holding on.  It seems like every upward shift comes with its own opposition. And oftentimes, though there are real external circumstances going haywire, nevertheless the biggest turmoil is internal. Some days, I don’t know how to honorably stand up under it. I think what I’m realizing more and ...

On Revealing Multiplicity

******This post mildly mentions ch*rch and d*mon possession.******           One of the hardest things about being a multiple is the lack of understanding by the general public of what it is, what it’s like, and appropriate ways to respond to the knowledge of someone being a multiple.  Most – if not ...

Another Plug, and a Request

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Just wanted to put in another plug for Dear Little Ones.  It is a book I wrote to help young alters understand Dissociative Identity Disorder. Here are some things you might like to know about the book: It is very safe and gentle. It is not oriented toward any specific healing path, although it does ...

How to be Friends with an S/RA Survivor: a Quick Start Guide

**TW** Mentions of ab*se, m*mories, fl*shbacks, etc… Hey everybody. I’m back with some continued thoughts on doing life and friendships/relationships with people who have experienced S/RA (Satanic/Ritual Abuse).  This is not meant to be all-inclusive, but just a starting point. I can’t possibly write every single thing that will be helpful for every single person ...

Excerpts from Trapped in the Mirror

I’m hoping to have some time to work on another post about the narcissistic parenting style tonight. In the meantime, Trapped in the Mirror, by Elan Golomb, was something I read years ago. I don’t remember too many specifics, but it cast a very revealing light on a lot of my struggles. I have combined some ...

The Trouble with Triggers

I realize that talking about triggers might be…um…triggering, but in that vein, I made up something pretty ridiculous in order to tone it down.  And once again, I am trying to work some things out, mentally, so I’m mostly writing to see if I can come to a better conclusion than I had come to ...

Physiological Challenges

So as I wrote about recently, I’ve been making some profound discoveries through Laurence Heller’s book Healing Developmental Trauma. This has brought up several of what would seem to be “side” issues, which nevertheless seem pretty big, so that’s where I’ve been camping out, trying to unpack everything I need to absorb in these places ...

Book Review in progress: Healing Developmental Trauma

Hey everybody. This is a pretty cerebral post (which ironically is a confirmation of my survival style, if you keep reading…haha), so I think we’re safe as far as TW’s go… So I started reading a new book last week called Healing Developmental Trauma, by Laurence Heller.  I’m only about halfway through it (or less), ...