Guest Post – Chloe

This probably needs a TRIGGER WARNING, even though we always try to keep things unspecific.  (S)RA/MC is mentioned in this post, as is Freemas*nry, pr*gramming, s*icide, and s*lf-m*tilation, etc.  If these words are problematic for you, be cautious or feel free to navigate away from this post.  If you are okay with reading/seeing those words, ...

Working With Multiple Systems

These are just some thoughts off the top of my head, as to how to work with a multiple and their system.  I’m writing this for therapists, counselors, and/or anyone else (even friends) who attempts to relate to or work with a multiple and their system.  As always, this is not meant to be exhaustive, and ...

Double Binds

**TW**  Some mild discussion of ritual abuse is included in this post.  I have made it generic.  But read with caution, if you are a survivor and/or are not in a good place emotionally.                               Double binds are something that everyone ...

Trauma-Based Mind Control **TW**

TRIGGER WARNING:  I have specifically made this blog a place where very few graphic details have or will ever be discussed, and this post is no exception. HOWEVER. Some people find that even certain words can be problematic.  This is a post where that may be the case.  I have not included ANY graphic details ...

Why I Write

I’m working on a post for later today, but I wanted to take a minute and ask a favor from all who have read my blog.  If you have found it useful, enjoyable, relevant to you or someone you know, or informative (or all 4! woohoo!), can you please take a minute and “Like” the ...

Types of Inside People

Someone recently asked me if I could write about a certain type of inside person, because they wanted information about it, so in keeping with this request, I am going to babble about this subject for a bit.  I have provided plenty of links within this post if you want to know more people’s opinions ...

To the Abandoned and To Those Who Walk Away

**This post does have a bit of religious terms and/or mention of Jesus.  Just thought I should mention that.  I try not to post things that are overly Christianese because the very definition of a Christian has become so watered-down and distorted these days, I’m not sure I want to be associated with the term.  ...

Some Resources

Hey everybody, I am about to have oral surgery tomorrow, and most likely won’t feel like writing for a few days.  But I did want to pause and extend some resources for those who might be interested in some of the same types of stuff that I have found helpful. NOTE:  The majority of these ...

Living Life With an SRA Survivor

I realize it might be a little absurd for me, the survivor, to write about what it’s like being friends with a survivor.  I’ve never walked a mile in those shoes…at least, not yet.  But I HAVE learned some things, most of them learned the hard way.  I’ve walked through misunderstandings, rejections, unfair judgments, and ...

The Protectors

I’m deviating from what I’d planned, because this subject matter is easier, I can churn it out faster for the readership, and because I need a few more days (the weekend, probably) to consolidate the other stuff I wanted to write. So, Protectors. Just about every system has one, or sometimes a group, of these.  ...

Interlude

I don’t want to disappoint anyone who has recently started following this blog by not posting anything, but y’all, I’m exhausted.  It’s been a tough week and I have some chronic pain issues that never really go away for any considerable length of time.  I am regularly faced with the difficult decision as to whether ...

The Ritual Aspect of RA

I have intentionally tried to keep this blog, as well as my website, as generic and as trigger-less as possible.  However, it’s impossible for me to know or avoid every trigger that every reader might have.  Everyone is unique and their stories are specific to them. I want to write a post soon about being ...

Object Constancy

I really, really don’t want my blog to read like a cheap psychology journal.  It probably does, but that’s not my intent.  I do think psychology comes into play with D.I.D., but I don’t think psychology itself is the answer to life’s problems.  I believe Jesus is the answer, and has the answers.  He knows ...

“False” Memories

I have mentioned in passing that I doubt even the validity of my own “memories,” for various reasons that are too significant to overlook.  I’m not sure if I can concisely explain why, but here’s the best I can do.  I have no answers…only questions. The biggest reason I doubt is this: other than the ...

Things We Want People to Know

Here are some things that we have commonly heard and feel the need to speak about. Just because we are displaying an emotion you don’t usually see, doesn’t mean we’ve switched.  My system is particularly shy about being seen when we come and go.  We can do it very, very quickly but if we think ...

What It’s “Like” to be Multiple

First of all, if you haven’t been to my other site, Crown and Sword, my name is Jade.  Formally it’s J8, but Jade is what evolved and Jade is what my friends call me.  My very close friends call me J, but since it’s not my legal name, at this point I’m like a stray dog…I ...